Wednesday, April 14, 2010

What's the best way to network for someone who hates networking?

I work in a very people-oriented business. I enjoy meeting people but I'm also a little shy to start off. I also hate the whole "networking" culture because it seems so shallow and fake and all about using people. And yet, I hear I'm supposed to network to be successful. So what's the best way to network for someone who is a little shy but still well-liked yet doesn't naturally acclimate to the networking culture? What advice do you have or do you know of a good book that can guide me?

What's the best way to network for someone who hates networking?
I know exactly what you're going through. I'm very shy around new people myself and it takes a while for me to get comfortable with other people.





What I like to do when I met new people is concentrate on THEM. Don't bother talking about yourself the entire time to try and impress them. Just ask them questions about their job, where they've worked where, where they're from, what they're interested in. They'll enjoy being the centre of attention, eventually you'll find some sort of common ground that you can build on. Networking is a harsh reality in today's world and unfortunately it's very closely related to a popularity contest.





It's as much about knowing your job as it is as coming across as likeable, funny, cool, smart, successful and / or nice. Reading helps too, staying up to date on current events is great way to ensure that you always have something to say. Hell, sometimes I read the editorial columnists and steal their point of view!
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